• Stop Giving Away Your Energy to Jerks

    I know what you’re thinking.. not another “I love a man that can’t do right” post. No, this is not that. This is about the people we love (who may actually love you too) but really don’t have the capacity to love you back because they don’t particularly care and/or like you. I know.. that’s a lot. let’s unpack it. Now, they haven’t always shown their ass in your relationship. In fact, for most of the time you both are really great together and things are good. And when I say relationship, I mean all relationships.. family, friends, and significant others. But for the sake of this, and for keeping…

  • What do you do with the most valuable thing you own?

    My phone goes off at 10pm. I generally have the luxury of activating my ‘Do Not Disturb’ feature Sunday through Thursday at that time (with few exceptions). The idea is that not only can no one access me, but I am also not able to engage with the world. I am disconnected. I try not to answer emails and stay off social media until 7am the next day. Sure the usuals can reach me.. my mom, dad, a handful of intermediate family or friends, but only for emergencies. I am essentially unavailable of nine whole hours. So what, pray tell, am I doing during this sacred time? Usually not a…

  • What up, Doe?

    Why is it that when someone asks what you’ve been up to your mind instantly goes blank. It’s like those exact words magically create some sort of white space in your head and you instantly forget every damn thing you’ve been doing in your life. There’s no doubt that I’ve accomplished things throughout my daily hours. And at the end of the day (on a good day) I can aptly check off a few things from my dynamically growing “to-do” list. I’ve rocked out at work and completed (or made strides on) projects, made it to the gym, knocked out some homework assignments, cooked dinner, did household chores, made social…

  • All you gotta do is say Yes

    I wake up each morning around 6:15am. It never fails. whether it’s a Tuesday morning or a Sunday morning my body somehow thinks it’s time to start the day around that time. and sometimes I listen. Sometimes I get up and become a completely active and productive part of society at that ungodly hour of the day.. walking my dog, taking a shower, journaling, making my lunch for the day as I drink my first cup of coffee.. (yes, you read that right.. first cup. Because there’s usually a couple in my morning.. Coffee is life.) But, then there are some days that my energy tries to start off with…

  • When Swiping Left feels Right

    Online Dating is the Wild Wild West. It’s fast moving. Cut throat. and Only made for the strong at heart and mind. First, let me say this, you have to have a sense of humor when committing yourself to using online dating. And, since I tend to find amusement in most things in life I knew I’d be alright in this arena. However, if I’m completely honest, when I seriously started thinking about utilizing dating apps I was especially cheeky and side-eyeing myself. Until recently, the thought of dating online was not only scary, and unattractive, but decidedly desperate. The generalized idea is that if you are looking for love…